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Post by GiftOfFlavor on Oct 2, 2018 21:35:28 GMT -5
Yes. I’m going through it currently as well.
The only thing that has ever worked for me is excercise to a nearly excessive level. Endorphins from exercise keep me sane.
(Also I’m at my lowest weight ever since about the 7th grade which also feels nice.)
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Post by katy on Oct 2, 2018 23:48:26 GMT -5
I can relate to a lot of things in this thread, although my mood has been pretty stable since I quit drinking 2 years ago. I used to be plagued with bad thoughts and ruminate on bad memories.
Prior to that, I had bad bouts of seasonal depression and the meds I took for that had a bad side effect and made me manic one year (but that might have been going off the meds. I actually don't remember, now.) I was diagnosed as bipolar but the meds for that scared me and I asked to try exercise and vitamin d. My doctor agreed and I had a nurse to guide me/to call with certain things to look out for. Luckily, it seemed to work in that I didn't become manic again. But a couple of years later I felt like my drinking was increasing.
Since I quit that, and started exercising very regularly, my moods have been stable.
But this week I've noticed a bit of a tendency to the negative. I think it may be related to the season. I will keep an eye on it.
This is the time of year I used to notice SAD starting. I have seen this in other people, as well. Taking care of yourself is key. I think maybe even to the point of being a bit selfish if that's what it takes to go to the gym or yoga or whatever.
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Post by mare on Oct 3, 2018 12:10:09 GMT -5
I'm sorry. I've always had low level anxiety and depression so I take a low dose of Lexapro for it.
However, when life gets overwhelming, I find it doesn't help that much.
My 18 year old DD is a mess, and I'm afraid of the coming years of struggling with her.
I tend to sleep a lot when depressed, and that is the opposite of what you should do.
I wish I had answers, but the only thing that helps is repeating the mantra, "I must accept that which I cannot change."
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Post by justthinking on Oct 4, 2018 22:33:26 GMT -5
((HUGS to you)) I think I am going through it now. Between the empty nest, dealing with my MIL's care, the neighborhood gas explosions (we still have no heat or hot water) and the insanity of work - I am very emotional. On Sunday about 5 minutes before we were taking Elliott back to the bus to return to school for the weekend he started crying. He didn't want to go back. He is homesick and lonely. He isn't making the connections he thought he would. He mostly eats alone and studies in his room. His roommate lives close to home so he is never there. That did.not.help. I've been crying since Sunday. It was devastating to put him back on the bus when he was feeling that way. BLAH I'm sorry Sprock. ((Hugs))
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Post by RN Mom on Oct 7, 2018 12:45:28 GMT -5
I have struggled with depression and anxiety my whole adult life, but had been doing so much better. I am definitely experiencing situational depression with all that is going on with Taylor and the babies, and I vacillate between crippling sadness, and self destructive pleasure seeking behavior (neither of which is at all productive or healthy, and I fully understand and recognize this). I don't think that medications will help because the situation still exists.
I want counseling but I never know what to expect from them. Whenever I have sought counseling in the past they always ask "What do you hope to gain from this, what are your goals?" Well, Brenda, I hope to not feel like a mess all the time. I'm not sure how you can help me because I do possess a surprising amount of self awareness". Sigh.
I don't know that I'm necessarily a person who's able to offer supportive help beyond "I'm sorry you're feeling this way, and you aren't alone, and I can listen and try to offer some advice, but I'm a mess myself". Hugs.
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Post by niccikatie on Oct 8, 2018 9:31:07 GMT -5
My 83yo father was diagnosed with multiple myeloma in August. It’s not curable, but it is treatable. He wasn’t very well at all for a couple of months before his diagnosis, but is now doing reasonably well all things considered, and I am so thankful that I still have him and my mother around. My mom is almost 81, and I worry about her health as well. Dad and Mom were out doing errands a few days ago, and he went to step up onto a curb but lost his footing and fell, and his face is pretty banged up. My Dad (64 now) was diagnosed with Multiple Myeloma 5 years ago. It's been a long and intense road for us, but we're still here 5 years later. Our life is very different but there still is lots of joy. I hope you have the same. Huge hugs to everyone struggling with things right now. I find this time of year particularly hard because, here in MN, it gets cold and gloomy and just difficult to pull oneself up and out of things. I really struggled with situational depression and anxiety when DH and I were going through our major struggles 4 years ago. My Dad had been just diagnosed with cancer, my mom wasn't coping well, I was working full time at a new job, I was going to grad school full time, and my marriage was crumbling. I was a mess. Initially, I didn't want to start any medication but when my sleep became interrupted every night and my focus was gone, I realized I needed something beyond what I was doing. I was on meds for less than a year. They gave me the ability to sleep uninterrupted as I was able to turn off my intrusive thoughts at night. I really think that was the key for coping for me. It does sound like you are doing the right things. Keep talking - that's key!
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Post by maurinsky on Oct 10, 2018 12:57:26 GMT -5
How is everyone doing today?
I am still stressed out, but emotionally, I'm feeling better. I'm bracing a bit - next week is our conference, we're trying to get everything lined up, T's crossed, I's dotted; and I keep thinking there will be a break, but I have a big meeting on November 1 and another on November 14, and we are going to have an opening in our department because one of our program managers got a great offer from a private company (which means more $$$, always). So we are going to be stretched a little bit thinner. So I'm just trying to tread water until I can get out of this deep water.
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Post by Sprockey on Oct 10, 2018 13:54:17 GMT -5
You got this!
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Post by M&M on Oct 11, 2018 13:03:34 GMT -5
I am not generally one who is prone to depression, however a very close friend died two weeks ago today and I am really struggling with the loss.
I doesn't help that at the time of her passing, we had been estranged for several years after a very very close 25-year friendship. It also didn't help that she lived next door to me, and I watched the events unfold (3 fire trucks arrived, then an ambulance, then 3 or 4 police cars. First to arrive were the firemen. They went in, and came back out very quickly without bringing her out. The ambulance folks did the same. Then the fire trucks and ambulance left, leaving only police) with an increasingly sick feeling that the situation was not good. It wasn't. She was so far gone that they didn't even attempt to revive her.
She had been in poor health for a while, with complicated diabetes. She was hospitalized a little over a month before her death with congestive heart failure. Yet she had returned home and appeared to be getting better. Ironically, I ran into her and her husband at the grocery store just 4 days before she died, and I stopped and said hello and we had a 20-30 minute conversation for the first time in years.
I attended her memorial service last week, to pay my respects and show my support to her husband, and her 3 grown children, who are practically like my own kids.
I am not sure I have the right to be as sad as I am considering the state of our friendship when she passed. Yet I am definitely struggling. I cry whenever I think about it, and I have to drag myself out of bed in the mornings and force myself to move through the day. My arms and legs feel like leaded weights. I have gone home after work every day and taken an 1 1/2 hour nap, which I never did before this. My stomach is torn up and I have no appetite. I want this to pass. I want to feel better but I am just not sure how or what to do to feel like myself again.
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Post by maurinsky on Oct 12, 2018 7:10:20 GMT -5
M&M, I'm so sorry about your loss. I can imagine that coming so shortly after a little bit of a reunion heightens your feelings of sadness.
I had a very close friend who died very young of a heart attack, and while time has softened my feelings, I still can cry sometimes when I think about him.
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Post by Sprockey on Oct 12, 2018 7:16:54 GMT -5
I'm sorry M&M ((hugs))
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