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Post by GiftOfFlavor on Dec 25, 2019 19:16:50 GMT -5
Ok, so person BLUE is a woman in her late 30’s who has always desperately wanted to have a child... I mean Always. Wanted. To. Be. Mommy. She married a man with two children who doesn’t want more, so she is a stepmom but hasn’t any children of her own. Person BLACK knows this and is BLUE’s mother. BLUE’s brother just had a second child recently so BLUE is an auntie twice over, but isn’t a “mother” herself and won’t have a biological child in her current marriage. BLACK just posted this to BLUE’s Facebook. Is that just incredibly fucked up and rude? Or am I reading into it because I know the people involved 😂🤷♀️  |
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Post by alicechalmers on Dec 25, 2019 20:03:10 GMT -5
It looks to me like she’s trying to be nice and encouraging and honor Blue’s very real contribution to the children of the family.
If my mom posted this on my wall, I would interpret it that way because we have a good relationship. It may be very different if the mother/daughter relationship is bad.
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Post by alicechalmers on Dec 25, 2019 20:04:10 GMT -5
That said, I wouldn’t appreciate it because I don’t wear my heart on my public sleeve.
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Post by nansel on Dec 25, 2019 20:11:21 GMT -5
I was an aunt for 12 years before I was a mom. I would have appreciated the sentiment as I was very involved in the kids’ lives.
But like AC said, we all had a good relationship so I would have known how it was meant.
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Post by mmeblue on Dec 25, 2019 20:22:12 GMT -5
Agree with AC.
Also, I have known more than one person around my parents' age who would think that posting directly on someone's FB is private rather than public. So the public posting may have been unintentional.
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Post by GiftOfFlavor on Dec 25, 2019 20:25:29 GMT -5
It looks to me like she’s trying to be nice and encouraging and honor Blue’s very real contribution to the children of the family. If my mom posted this on my wall, I would interpret it that way because we have a good relationship. It may be very different if the mother/daughter relationship is bad. Would it change your opinion if the aunt and niece/nephews lived in different places several hours on a plane apart and Aunt had seen neice/nephew a handful of times total? Like, is not a particularly involved auntie? |
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Post by alicechalmers on Dec 25, 2019 20:29:29 GMT -5
Not really. She could just be trying to send the message that Blue is important.
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Post by Peanut on Dec 26, 2019 6:56:56 GMT -5
Agree with AC. Also, I have known more than one person around my parents' age who would think that posting directly on someone's FB is private rather than public. So the public posting may have been unintentional. Team AC and mmeblue. Mmeb hit the nail on the head with the bolded. As an outside person looking in, I have no idea what the dynamics are in the family, or even if Mom and Blue had been talking on the phone previously and Mom told Blue of the article she had seen and promised to share it with Blue. There are times when I see WTF-type posts on Facebook and have to step back a few beats, not knowing context. It's far too easy to feel butthurt when all that's seen is what's out there on Facebook. |
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Post by Mabel on Jan 20, 2020 20:05:11 GMT -5
I wouldn’t think it was cruel. I would think the person is trying in their way to be supportive.
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Post by marianparoo on Jan 23, 2020 6:28:35 GMT -5
I wouldn’t think it was cruel. I would think the person is trying in their way to be supportive. Maybe not cruel, but thoughtless, in the most literal sense of the word |
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Post by Peanut on Jan 23, 2020 15:30:50 GMT -5
I wouldn’t think it was cruel. I would think the person is trying in their way to be supportive. Maybe not cruel, but thoughtless, in the most literal sense of the word "Thoughtless" seems to be an extremely common status for many on Facebook. |
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